healthy love exists

Many people don’t realize how deeply the subconscious (95% of us sub is our body) can affect their ability to experience and maintain healthy love.

Here are three common subconscious blocks that often get in the way:

1. Fear of Vulnerability (Fear of Being Hurt)

Subconscious belief: “If I open up, I’ll be rejected, abandoned, or betrayed.”

• This often stems from early emotional wounds—such as inconsistent caregiving, past heartbreaks, or being shamed for emotional expression.

• It can cause someone to keep their guard up, sabotage intimacy, or attract emotionally unavailable partners.

Healing focus: Learning emotional safety and self-trust; recognizing that vulnerability is not weakness but the foundation of real connection.

2. Low Self-Worth or Unworthiness of Love

Subconscious belief: “I’m not good enough to be loved for who I am.”

• This block can cause people to chase unavailable partners, over-give, or settle for less than they deserve.

• It can also make healthy love feel boring or undeserved because the nervous system associates love with struggle or proving oneself.

Healing focus: Reprogramming self-worth through inner child work, affirmations that align love with safety and ease, and choosing relationships that reflect genuine appreciation.

3. Confusing Love with Familiar Pain

Subconscious belief: “Love feels like what I grew up with.”

• If love in childhood was inconsistent, conditional, or chaotic, the subconscious may equate that emotional intensity with “true love.”

• This can lead to repeating cycles with partners who mirror early caregivers—trying unconsciously to “fix” the past through them.

Healing focus: Recognizing that peace and stability can also feel like love; learning to regulate the nervous system so calm connection feels safe, not dull.

LET`S JOURNAL about it

bc journaling is one of the most effective ways to surface subconscious patterns. Here are targeted prompts and exercises for each of the three love blocks:

🧠 1. Fear of Vulnerability

Journaling Prompts

• “When was the first time I remember feeling unsafe being emotionally open?”

• “What do I fear would happen if I let someone truly see all of me?”

• “How do I usually protect myself when I start to feel close to someone?”

Mini Exercise

Try the “safe sharing” experiment:

• Choose someone you trust (a friend, therapist, or journal).

• Share a small truth you’ve been withholding — a feeling, need, or opinion.

• Notice your body’s reaction (tension, relief, fear) and gently remind yourself:

  “It’s safe to be seen.”This rewires your nervous system to associate vulnerability with safety, not danger.

  
  

💗 2. Low Self-Worth or Feeling Unworthy of Love

Journaling Prompts

• “What messages about my worth or lovability did I absorb growing up?”

• “When someone treats me kindly, what’s my first instinct — to accept it or to question it?”

• “If I believed I was fully worthy of love, what boundaries or standards would I hold?”

Mini Exercise

Do the “mirror dialogue” daily for one week:Look into your eyes in a mirror and say out loud:

“I am worthy of love that feels peaceful, consistent, and real.”At first it may feel awkward — that’s normal. You’re building a new emotional association between love and worthiness.

🔄 3. Confusing Love with Familiar Pain

Journaling Prompts

• “What did love look and feel like in my childhood home?”

• “What patterns or emotional dynamics do I keep replaying in relationships?”

• “What does healthy, calm love feel like in my imagination?”

Mini Exercise

The “nervous system reset”:

1. Close your eyes and visualize a safe, stable love — calm voice, gentle energy, mutual respect.

2. As you hold that image, take 5–7 deep, slow breaths.

3. Tell your body:

   “This is what love can feel like.”Repeating this helps your body and subconscious re-learn that peace, not chaos, can equal connection.

NOW, onto ACTION

this kind of work can be transformative when done with care and consistency.

Here’s a 7-day journaling & emotional reset plan designed to gently uncover and release subconscious blocks to healthy love.

🌿 7-Day Healing Love Journaling Plan

Each day includes:

1️⃣ A theme & intention

2️⃣ Journaling prompts (you can answer 1–3 deeply)

3️⃣ A short embodiment or nervous system practice

Take about 20–30 minutes each day in a calm space. Remeber to feel it in your body. Feeling is healing and feeling is manifesting. Feeling is the key to progressing at anything.

🕊️ Day 1 — Awareness: Seeing Your Patterns

Intention: Understand what you keep recreating in love.

Prompts:

• What kinds of people am I most drawn to, and what feelings do they evoke in me?

• What relationship pattern do I most want to stop repeating?

• How does this pattern serve me or keep me safe?

Practice: After journaling, place your hand on your heart and say:

“I am open to seeing the truth with compassion.”Take five slow breaths.

💬 Day 2 — Vulnerability: Letting Yourself Be Seen

Intention: Begin softening the armor around your heart.

Prompts:

• What emotions or needs do I find hardest to share with others?

• What would “safe connection” look like for me?

• When was a time someone responded kindly to my openness?

Practice: Write one small truth about yourself that you usually hide, then whisper it aloud.

“It’s safe to be seen.”

🌷 Day 3 — Worthiness: Reclaiming Your Value

Intention: Rebuild your sense of inherent worth.

Prompts:

• When did I first start questioning if I was enough?

• What do I love about who I am when I’m not trying to please anyone?

• What would a partner who truly saw my worth look and act like?

Practice: Mirror work — look yourself in the eyes and say:

“I am worthy of love that feels peaceful and real. Where we both can express and hear + see the other fully. ”Repeat three times.

🔥 Day 4 — Releasing Old Pain

Intention: Acknowledge and let go of the pain you’ve carried in love.

Prompts:

• Who or what still holds emotional power over me?

• What lesson did that person or experience teach me about love?

• What am I ready to release today?

Practice: Write a short release letter (you don’t send it). End it with:

“I now release you and the pain we shared. I choose peace.”Then tear or safely burn the paper.

🌊 Day 5 — Redefining Love

Intention: Redraw your subconscious map of what love is.

Prompts:

• What did love feel like in my childhood home?

• How would I like love to feel now — emotionally, mentally, physically?

• What does a “safe relationship” look like to me?

Practice: Close your eyes and visualize love that feels calm, steady, and mutual.Breathe deeply and repeat:

“Peaceful love feels safe.”

🌞 Day 6 — Repatterning: Acting from Self-Love

Intention: Align your actions with your new beliefs.

Prompts:

• What boundaries or standards will protect my peace?

• How can I show myself love today?

• What new behavior would reflect my healed self?

Practice:Do one self-loving act today — rest, say no, take a walk, or speak kindly to yourself.

🌸 Day 7 — Integration: Opening to Healthy Love

Intention: Anchor your new relationship blueprint.

Prompts:

• What feels different in me after this week?

• What kind of love am I ready to receive now?

• What does my healed heart want to say to me?

Practice: Sit quietly, hand on heart, and affirm:

“I am open to giving and receiving healthy, lasting love.”Visualize your heart expanding with light.

To attract healthy you must act from your core heart*: calm, curious, compassionate, creative, courageous, confident, connected, clear.

*core self it is IFS term, internal family system

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